I’ve forgotten about this sanctuary.
I write in so many different places that it’s hard to keep track. The different journals, mediums, writing style, content..
It’s been a wild year. I dropped out of my previous college and traversed through uncertain paths guided by nothing, not even blind faith. I went from excelling as an Architecture major to learning about communications and media to studying computer science. Now, in my current school, which I’m about to begin my second year in 2 months, I hope to specialise in a track where I can learn technical skills and knowledge in Intelligence Systems, while gain experience in Product Design. It’s a tall order. I also gained new hobbies in the new environment: bouldering, kayaking, 3D Modelling.
It’s a daunting path to thread. I can eschew passion and follow the most lucrative and obvious choice which my friends have taken, to go into Software Engineering. However, during these few months of summer break, I have been interning and working with older colleagues mired in pointless office work. What seemed to be novel at first quickly became dreadful. Before long, I realised that my attitude and outlook towards life have gradually shifted and I was becoming like my colleagues: frustrated with work, ranting about pointless drivel with nothing to dream about but their paycheck and retiring.. My body took its toll too. I used to be able to deadlift sets of 130kg prior to the desk-bound job but now my back is weak and it’s easier to lounge on the couch than hit the gym after work..
I guess my main takeaway from this internship wasn’t any new skills but the realisation that I don’t wanna work dead-end nine-to-five desk-bound job.
Last year this time, I was very in tune with myself. How do I explain it?…I liked who I was and was okay with it, it was the first time when I was okay with my looks, my imperfections, my loneliness. I went into my new school being my most authentic self. I opened up my introvert self and met many new acquaintances and friends, much more than the two years I spent in Architecture. I also met this person who approached me first at the start of school and we became good friends. There was this special aura about them which caused me to be my least guarded self around them. I hit it off really well with them and in the first few months, I had a crush on them. However, they were already attached, I didn’t tell them and I was alright with that. I was alright with that if I hadn’t formed an impression of their partner being a bad person after getting to know them (after umpteenth times where they have confided problems in me, and the lapses in common decency)..Still they are together so I tried to distance myself but I always end up being closer to this good friend…
I have been trying my best to extinguish these feelings I have for them and my worries for them being with a bad person.. I have been trying to forget for months and I don’t know if it will ever go away. My other friends whom I confide in advised me to confess my feelings and if things turn south, then so be it..
This is the only conundrum in my life right now. Pretty dumb… I am knowledgeable and skillful in my domain, I have a pretty healthy body, I think my values are morally sound and my future is promising, yet this is the only thing that bothers me. If anything, I seemed to be becoming closer friends with them unknowingly. I don’t want to and will never do anything to jeopardise this friendship. It’s one of the rarest kinds of friendship and I can never destroy it.
My worry for them may all be for nought too. Even though their partner has treated them abhorrently, and has been a giant red flag, somehow they always manage to patch up and they seem to be able to tolerate the bad behaviours more now. It’s really none of my business to intervene in anything, I’ve mentioned my opinions before and that’s that, I may have the wrong perceptions, and maybe they are right in their decisions and choices. Then again, maybe they’re so blinded by feelings that they fail to see how toxic their relationship is.
Of all the entries on this site, I think this would be my most private and vulnerable one. If anyone who knows me chance upon this, I wouldn’t want them to relate it back to me.
After a whole year of dropping out of my previous college, I realised that a lot has changed. I no longer feel comfortable being me. I haven’t really done much of the things that brings me peace or joy. I have been too caught up in presenting myself as a flawless individual in my new school environment that I seemed to have lost a part of myself. I have been conflating my being alone with my crush on this person.
It’s also been a year since I last spoke with the counsellor from my previous school..It’s been a weird year and I guess I should check out the counselling service in my current school, since therapy outside is too unaffordable.
Why did I ramble and write all these? I am not too sure. I have been journaling in various places and this was one of them which I forgot. I guess I just wanna sort out my thoughts and perhaps dump some of the things that have been bothering me, since there’s no one I can say all these to. The only person who should hear parts of this isn’t available and I don’t want them to hear it because I am afraid of the consequences of breaking ties with them..
Maybe I’ll return to this entry in a year and laugh at how childish my writings are, yet how wonderful it feels to be like a child while in this decaying adult vessel.